保持开心的英文（表示心情好的英语句子）

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Every man and woman wants to be happy, but no one actually asks what exactly is happiness. Where does it even come from?

每个男人和女人都希望自己是快乐的，但其实没有人问，快乐到底是什么？它到底从何而来？

Many videos that talk about this topic say that its totally subjective to the person and you should only do what makes you happy. To some extent, I do agree with this, but there is a giant piece of the happiness puzzle that I believe people are missing.

很多谈论这个话题的视频都说，这完全是个人的主观臆断，你只应该做让你快乐的事情。在某种程度上，我确实同意这一点，但我相信人们在快乐的拼图中，有一块巨大的拼图是缺失的。

And in this video, I am going to address it. Lets start off with an example.

而在这期视频中，我将解决这个问题。让我们从一个例子开始。

If I ask someone, "What makes you happy?" and they say to me, "owning cool cars makes me happy, I have a very cool car collection." So, this is cool, but this is superficial happiness, it is not really cored happiness.

如果我问一个人，什么让你快乐？他们对我说，拥有很酷的车让我快乐，我有一系列很酷的汽车收藏。所以，这是很酷，但这只是表面的快乐，并不是真正的内核快乐。

There is a quote by Socrates that I think is very interesting. He said, "The secret of happiness is not found in seeking more, but in developing the capacity to enjoy less."

苏格拉底有一句话，我觉得很有意思。他说，快乐的秘密并不在于寻求更多想要的，而是在于培养清心寡欲的能力。

I will explain this quote through an example. We all know someone who has gone over to Africa for a little bit of time to help out the kids there.

我会通过一个例子来解释这句话。我们都知道，有的人会去非洲一段时间来帮助那里的孩子们。

One of the most common things people say when they come back from Africa is how happy the kids are there. Even though they have almost nothing, a lot of them are laughing and enjoying themselves much more than the kids back in North America who have much more than them.

从非洲回来后，人们最常说的一句话就是，那里的孩子们有多快乐。尽管他们几乎一无所有，但他们中的许多人比北美那些比他们拥有更多东西的孩子们笑得更多，玩得更开心。

This is because their happiness comes from much less. Another interesting idea to understand with very young children is that you dont really ever ask them, "Are you happy?"

这是因为他们的快乐来自于更少的欲望。对非常小的孩子来说，另一个需要理解的有趣的观点是，你从来不会真的问他们，你快乐吗？

If you asked a child that, they wouldnt even really know what you were talking about. Now, there will be a time where you will ask that kid, "Are you happy?"

如果你这样问孩子，他们根本就不知道你在说什么。现在，总有一天你会问孩子：你快乐吗？

And they will say either no or yes because as you get older, more stuff and burdens get laid upon you. Where a lot of people get in trouble is when they think happiness is tangible.

他们会说不快乐或者快乐，因为随着年龄的增长，更多的东西和负担会压在你身上。很多人陷入困境的地方是，他们认为快乐是有形的。

Meaning they can touch and smell it, like a new car. But, happiness is not this, happiness just is.

意思是说，他们可以摸一摸，闻一闻，就像一辆新车一样。但是，快乐不是这样的，快乐就是快乐而已。

Another quote that I really love is, "Happiness is reality minus expectations." When we start laying things on the child, when we start laying expectations on the child and when the child does not achieve our expectations, like getting a good grade or not coming in first in a race when he was expected to come first, then they become unhappy.

另一句我很喜欢的话是，快乐就是现实减去期望值。当我们开始对孩子施加东西时，当我们开始对孩子施加期望时，当孩子没有达到我们的期望，比如说考个好成绩，或者在比赛中没有获得第一名，而我们期待他得第一名，他们就会变得不快乐。

Because we have associated happiness with these tangible things, its impossible to get core happiness. When us humans are in our totally natural state, when there is nothing tangible chaining us down, then we are happy.

因为我们已经把快乐和这些有形的东西联系在一起，就不可能得到内核真正的快乐。当我们人类处于完全自然的状态时，当没有什么有形的东西束缚着我们的时候，我们是快乐的。

When we are free, we are happy. That is why children are so happy.

当我们自由时，我们是快乐的。所以孩子们才会这么开心。

Because theres nothing chaining them down, they just kind of laugh and do whatever they want to do. A lot of them dont even make sense when you talk to them.

因为没有什么东西束缚着他们，他们只是笑着做他们想做的事情。很多时候，当你跟他们说话的时候，他们很多话都语义不明确。

They dont even feel obligated to form complete sentences. Im not saying that we can go through our lives without goals, I am not saying its bad to be happy when you make a certain amount of money per month and achieve a goal.

他们甚至不觉得自己有义务组成完整的句子。我并不是说我们的人生可以没有目标，也不是说当你每个月赚到一定的钱，实现了某个目标，就会因此很开心是不好的。

But, what I am saying is its important to understand what exactly happiness is. You need to ask yourself, "Where does my happiness come from?"

但是，我想说的是，了解快乐到底是什么很重要。你需要问自己，我的快乐从哪里来？

And ruthlessly, ask yourself, "Why do I get my happiness from this thing." If you ask yourself why enough times, you will get down to the core of yourself.

然后无情地问自己：为什么我能从这件事中得到快乐？如果你问自己为什么的次数足够多，你就会深入到自己的核心。

Maybe the reason why you love cars so much is because of your dad loved cars. Maybe your dad loved cars so much that he neglected you as a child.

也许你之所以这么爱车，是因为你的爸爸爱车。也许你的爸爸太爱车了，以至于在你还是个孩子的时候就忽略了你。

And because you have not dealt with this issue, subconsciously, when you get these amazing cars, youre trying to impress him and get attention from him. This might sound a little weird and crazy.

而因为你还没有处理好这个问题，所以潜意识里，当你得到这些非常好的车时，你就会想方设法打动他，引起他的注意。这听起来可能有点怪异，有点疯狂。

I know Im not a therapist or a psychiatrist, but this type of behavior is actually much more common than you realize. You need to ask yourself why.

我知道我不是临床医师或心理医生，但这种类型的行为其实比你意识到的要常见得多。你需要问问自己为什么。

As you get older and older, you get so much stuff just laid upon you, pushing your happiness further and further down the rabbit hole, which chains you down even more. And again, happiness is being free.

随着年龄越来越大，你会有太多的东西压在你身上，把你的快乐越推越远，越推越深，把你的快乐锁在了兔子洞里，把你锁得更深。再说一次，幸福就是自由自在。

If it gets really bad and the chains become too much, people will try and escape by using drugs, food, sex. No matter what it is people use to escape, it achieves the same goal, which is temporarily blurring all the expectations laid upon you.

如果情况真的很糟糕，锁链太多，人们就会想方设法通过毒品、食物和性来逃避。不管人们用什么来逃避，都能达到同样的目的，那就是暂时模糊了所有寄托在你身上的期望。

You are not really happy when you are high. You just forget about the expectations just for a moment.

当你嗨起来的时候，你并不是真正的快乐。你只是暂时忘记了那些期望。

Become aware of what you think makes you happy and be honest with yourself. Subscribe to become a masculine man.

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